Bad Decisions, Good Lipstick: A Boujee Girl's Guide to Living a Little

Because being responsible is cute… but so is being unforgettable.

There comes a point in every woman's life when she realizes she has spent entirely too much time being sensible.

Being polite.
Being available.
Being careful.
Being the responsible one.
Being the woman who says, "Maybe next time," while secretly wanting to put on lipstick, order the expensive drink and stay out long enough to create a story worth telling.

Let's clear something up: living a little does not mean wrecking your life, texting your ex at midnight or waking up in a stranger's driveway missing one shoe.

It means remembering that you are still allowed to be fun. Still allowed to be desired. Still allowed to be spontaneous, glamorous, flirtatious, loud, soft, wild and a little unreasonable in the best possible way.

Because a Boujee Girl was never made to live a beige life.

She was made for good lipstick, better lighting, questionable second cocktails and nights that begin with, "I'm only staying for one drink."

Wear the Lipstick That Gets Attention

Every woman has that lipstick.

The one that changes the way she looks in the mirror. The one that makes her sit a little straighter, smile a little slower and suddenly remember that she is, in fact, a whole situation.

Maybe yours is a rich red. A glossy nude. A deep wine color that makes your lips look like trouble in the most elegant way possible.

Wear it.

Do not wait for a date. Do not wait for a party. Do not wait for someone else to give you a reason to feel sexy.

Put it on to run errands. Put it on to meet your girlfriends. Put it on while drinking wine in your own kitchen wearing a robe and listening to music that makes you feel dangerous.

A woman who feels beautiful for herself is a woman nobody can ignore.

Boujee Girl Rule: Never underestimate the power of lipstick, perfume and absolutely no intention of behaving boring.

Stop Saving Your Best Self for Special Occasions

The good dress. The sexy heels. The beautiful lingerie. The perfume that smells too expensive to wear casually.

Why are you saving all of it?

For a man?
For a holiday?
For some imaginary future version of your life when you finally feel worthy of being glamorous?

No, baby.

Wear the outfit. Use the beautiful glass. Put on the lace under something ordinary just because it makes you feel hot. Spray the perfume even when the only person getting close enough to smell it is you.

Boujee living is not about being dressed up every second of the day. It is about refusing to postpone pleasure.

The special occasion is that you woke up, you are still fabulous, and you survived enough nonsense to deserve a little luxury.

Say Yes to the Invitation You Would Normally Turn Down

Sometimes the night you almost skipped becomes the night you talk about for years.

The last-minute dinner.
The girls' night you were too tired for.
The little rooftop bar.
The live music place where somebody says, "Come on, one more drink."
The invitation that arrives just as you have removed your makeup and settled into your comfortable pants.

Of course, staying home can be delicious. A woman does not owe anyone her time or her presence.

But sometimes "I'm tired" really means "I've gotten too comfortable doing nothing exciting."

There is a difference.

Once in a while, get dressed again. Curl your hair. Slip into something flattering. Meet the friend. Take the ride. Order the cocktail. Laugh too loudly.

You do not have to be wild every night.

You just have to make sure your life still has a pulse.

Order the Dessert. Order the Champagne. Order Both.

There is a certain kind of woman who always denies herself pleasure so she can appear disciplined, responsible and low-maintenance.

Boujee Girls are not applying for the position of low-maintenance.

Order the tiramisu. Split the champagne. Get the pretty cocktail with the ridiculous garnish. Let the waiter bring two spoons and then decide you actually needed the whole dessert for yourself.

Life contains enough disappointment without voluntarily skipping the chocolate.

Enjoyment is not something you need to earn. Pleasure is not an apology. You are allowed to taste the good things, wear the good things and surround yourself with things that make you feel beautiful.

A little indulgence does not make you irresponsible.

It makes you alive.

Flirt a Little — Even If It Is Just With Life

Flirting is not always about getting someone's phone number.

Sometimes flirting is walking into a room knowing your outfit is doing exactly what it was meant to do.

Sometimes it is making eye contact a second longer than necessary.

Sometimes it is smiling at the bartender, leaving a generous tip and enjoying the fact that you still have it.

Sometimes it is dancing in your kitchen, wearing oversized earrings to lunch or taking yourself somewhere beautiful just because you refuse to wait for someone else to make your life romantic.

Flirt with possibility. Flirt with adventure. Flirt with the version of you who is bolder than you have been lately.

There is something unbelievably sexy about a woman who is enjoying herself instead of waiting to be chosen.

Take the Picture While You Still Feel Hot

Women can be ruthless with themselves.

We avoid the camera. Criticize our bodies. Pick apart our smiles. Decide we are too old, too curvy, too wrinkled, too tired or not quite ready to be seen.

Meanwhile, life keeps moving.

Take the picture.

Take the selfie in the bathroom with the flattering lighting. Take the photo with your girlfriends when your hair looks amazing and your smile is real. Take the picture in the dress that hugs you exactly where it should.

You do not need to post it. You do not need anybody's approval.

But someday, you will look back at that picture and realize you were stunning while you were busy doubting yourself.

A Boujee Girl does not wait until she is perfect to celebrate how beautiful she is.

She captures the moment while the lipstick is still fresh.

Stop Being the Woman Who Always Behaves

Being classy does not mean being predictable.

You can be elegant and still curse when the story calls for it.
You can be responsible and still dance on a night you planned to be in bed by ten.
You can be mature and still wear something that makes heads turn.
You can have standards and still be a little spicy.

The hottest women are not necessarily the youngest, the thinnest or the most perfect.

They are the women who feel comfortable in their own energy.

They laugh without covering their mouth. They walk with purpose. They know what they bring to the table, and they are no longer interested in shrinking themselves to make anyone else comfortable.

You did not come this far in life to become invisible.

Be graceful. Be kind. Be smart.

But every now and then, be the reason someone forgets what they were saying.

Let the Old Version of You Be Shocked

Maybe you have spent years taking care of everyone else. Maybe you have been the mother, the partner, the business owner, the dependable friend, the woman who keeps everything running.

That woman is incredible.

But she is not the only version of you that gets to exist.

There is still a woman inside you who wants music, lipstick, attention, late-night laughter, beautiful dresses, a perfectly poured drink and a life that feels just a little bit scandalous.

Let her out.

Let her buy the shoes.
Let her change her hair.
Let her take the trip.
Let her wear the low-cut top with the fabulous necklace.
Let her walk away from boring energy without explaining herself.
Let her be seen.

You are allowed to become someone your old comfort zone would barely recognize.

Choose the Kind of Bad Decisions That Make You Feel Alive

Let's be clear: the best bad decisions do not break your heart, empty your bank account or leave you regretting your own name the next morning.

The best kind are beautifully harmless.

Staying out later than planned because you were having too much fun.
Buying the dress because it made you feel irresistible.
Taking yourself out instead of sitting home waiting for someone to call.
Drinking the champagne on a random Tuesday.
Booking the weekend away.
Sending the confident text.
Cutting off the energy that has been making you feel small.
Choosing yourself without guilt.

Maybe they are not really bad decisions at all.

Maybe they are reminders that you were never meant to simply exist between responsibilities.

You were meant to feel something.

Final Thoughts: Good Lipstick Is Just the Beginning

A Boujee Girl is not a woman with a perfect life.

She is a woman who knows how to create beautiful moments inside an imperfect one.

She knows there will be bills, stress, work, heartbreak, obligations and mornings when the mirror is rude for absolutely no reason.

But she also knows there will be red lipstick. Girls' nights. Champagne. Soft sheets. Flirty dresses. Music in the car. Compliments from strangers. Unexpected invitations. Second chances. New beginnings. And moments when she catches her reflection and thinks:

There she is.

So wear the lipstick. Accept the invitation. Order dessert. Take the picture. Stay out a little later. Stop saving your sexiest, boldest, most unforgettable self for someday.

Someday is already here.

And darling, she looks good on you.